In the event that your marriage is moving toward an ending, there are several things to consider which you will have to consider. Most of these topics are not pleasant to consider, but will need to be addressed.
Choosing a lawyer to represent you. Essentially, you can have an uncontested divorce, collaborative divorce or one that is contested and will require mediation. The wrong lawyer or type of sentiment you have about the divorce can lead to increased costs, conflict, loss of marital assets and even greater problems during the divorce process. Choose your lawyer with caution. Make sure your strategies are aligned. You need to be comfortable with the following:
1) Does the lawyer have the experience and knowledge of custody issues, specialize in family law, have courtroom experience?
2) Do you have rapport with your lawyer?
3) Do you feel comfortable with your lawyer?
4) Is your lawyer responsive to your questions and calls in a timely manner?
5) Do you sense your lawyer is on your side and will protect you both legally and emotionally?
6) What is the reputation of your lawyer? Do you like what they stand for?
7) Do you agree upon their strategy and focus?
8) Does your lawyer exude confidence?
9) Are the legal fees reasonable? Do you have a written agreement?
Even with the best of circumstances, a divorce can be extremely stressful and painful. Remember, your choice of lawyer should be a part of your solution, not a part of the problem. You owe it to yourself to choose carefully and to choose the best lawyer for you.
