Pleasing People–Upside and Downside

Let’s start with the downside of pleasing. What is the cost to you to always please others? Do a bit of self-analysis on the test. Are you….
  • Always putting everyone else’s needs before your own?
  • Always saying yes?
  • Only feel important contributing to others?
  • Worry how others will view you?
  • Going out of your way for others & depending on their approval for your self-worth & self-esteem?
  • Fear being disliked?
  • Not being included in the group?
  • Exhausted helping others?
  • Not taking time for yourself?
  • Not happy with your own life?

It may be time for a “Selfie Makeover”. What do I mean? Well, the remedy may have to do with taking care of yourself first. Make sure some of the following considerations are on your personal list of wants and needs.

  • Your needs are being met
  • Have good boundaries
  • Say no
  • Speak up for yourself
  • Be assertive
  • Be expressive
  • Feel & act empowered
  • An internal locus of control matters more that approval from others
  • Affirm myself for my accomplishments
  • Proud of yourself
  • Able to value yourself
  • Feeling a sense of purpose & meaning in your life
Confidence means you can “do something”, self-esteem means you feel good about what you do. Plan to spend more time building your self-esteem by acknowledging yourself and taking compliments sincerely. Why a Selfie? Because, Self matters!!!!

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Dr. Mike Klaybor

Dr. Mike Klaybor

Dr. Mike Klaybor brings thirty years of experience in practicing counseling psychology with individuals and couples. His approach is cognitive behavioral therapy or CBT. Specific specialties include; anxiety and stress management, chronic pain & chronic illness management, depression, substance abuse evaluations, employee assistance and executive coaching for workplace performance and leadership.