There is a big difference between confidence and self-esteem. Confidence is, “I can do something.” Self-esteem is “how you feel about what you do. ” Once you accomplish something, the next step is to take a moment to value yourself. Outside compliments are wonderful, but few people can really legimitmately take them in wholeheartedly. Self-validation, positive self talk, is the best way build self-assurance. In a recent article by Dr. Phil as seen by this graphic on the right, you can spin the arrow and begin to develop deeper self-acceptance. If you would like to read the article, just click on this link for the Huffington Post review. Ways to Self-Assurance.Below is a brief test Dr. Phil has to measure your self-esteem. Let’s see how you do.
A Self-Esteem Quiz
Improving your self-esteem is a lot of work. Start by asking yourself these questions.
1. Is your self-esteem based on what others think of you?
2. Do you do things to make other people happy, even if it makes you feel bad?
3. Do you have a hard time being happy for others when they succeed?
4. Do you call yourself names like “stupid” or “dummy” when you make mistakes — or sometimes even when you don’t?
5. Do you have a hard time taking risks?
Scoring:
If you answered yes to any of these questions, your self-concept or self-esteem may be distorted. If you answered yes to three or more, then you are not living authentically.
1. Is your self-esteem based on what others think of you?
2. Do you do things to make other people happy, even if it makes you feel bad?
3. Do you have a hard time being happy for others when they succeed?
4. Do you call yourself names like “stupid” or “dummy” when you make mistakes — or sometimes even when you don’t?
5. Do you have a hard time taking risks?
Scoring:
If you answered yes to any of these questions, your self-concept or self-esteem may be distorted. If you answered yes to three or more, then you are not living authentically.
