Learning to Deal with Verbal Abuse

Patricia Evans, author of “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” explains abuse victims don’t realize that the problem isn’t theirs.: it’s in the abuser’s need to dominate and control.

Hallmarks of verbal abuse:
  • It’s hostile.
  • It’s unpredictable.
  • It’s manipulative and controlling.
  • It happens when no one else is around.
  • The victim feels confused and surprised.
  • The words are hurtful.
What can you do? Respond with;

Stop it! or Don’t talk to me like that.
Don’t defend or explain, the abuser is not interested in understanding you, just control you.

  • Listen to your feelings and believe them.
  • Remove yourself if you assess the situation as dangerous.
  • Verbal abuse is a doorway to physical abuse, so take steps to be safe.
  • Get support through a therapist and/or support group.
  • Seek information.
When you calmly stand up for yourself and refuse to be goaded into defending or explaining, the abuser typically gives up.        We can help!!!!

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Dr. Mike Klaybor brings thirty years of experience in practicing counseling psychology with individuals and couples. His approach is cognitive behavioral therapy or CBT. Specific specialties include; anxiety and stress management, chronic pain & chronic illness management, depression, substance abuse evaluations, employee assistance and executive coaching for workplace performance and leadership.