In a book by Richard Moon, Aikido in Three Easy Lessons, he presents philosophy worth practicing to enhance your life and work, creativity and renewal. Aikido is the peaceful martial art that flows with energy or “goes with” movement, not against it. Imagine how useful this would be in a relationship to stop emotionally blocking and striking. Marital Aikido uses the concept of blending with rather than opposing energy. It emphasizes alignment of forces, not resistance.
The three lessons Moon proposes are:
1) Feel where you are.
2) Harmonious relationship.
3) Share who you are.
If you are in touch with your feelings, you will be more emotionally connected. If you are harmonious, you will move in concert with your partner. If you share, you will let yourself be seen and make a contribution.
A quote by the founders of Aikido, Morihei Ueshiba O Sensei says it best, “Aikido is not a technique to fight with or defeat the enemy. It is a way to reconcile the world and make human beings one family.” Do some work to go with the resistance in your life to bring harmony and connection.