At a glance, it is the idea that ‘the grass is always greener’. Even if life is going well… could it be going better?
Before the days of Facebook, surely everyone skipped out on an invitation to a party only to learn that it was really fun, and they should have been there. But the pervasive feeling of FOMO goes further than that. It is incessant. It is due in large part to the public window that social media creates. The posts of other’s joyous experiences, which are often only showcasing the best moments, have created an anxiety in the viewer that their life isn’t quite good enough. That there is always something better that you can be doing. You might be missing out on a party. Or maybe you are missing out on your entire life.
After seeing all of the great experiences that everyone else is having, it is only natural to want that for yourself. And you deserve a wonderful life! But have your posts changed in reaction to everyone else’s? The competition aspect of FOMO perpetuates itself. It is contagious.
The best medicine is to remember is that joy can be found in the present. There is something beautiful going on around you right now. It may be something small, but it is noticeable. And it is YOUR life. If you see a post and become a little jealous, bring yourself back to your surroundings. Find gratitude in the moments of life that have brought you joy. Find gratitude that the lives of your friends and family are full of great moments too.
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Dr. Mike Klaybor
Dr. Mike Klaybor brings thirty years of experience in practicing counseling psychology with individuals and couples. His approach is cognitive behavioral therapy or CBT. Specific specialties include; anxiety and stress management, chronic pain & chronic illness management, depression, substance abuse evaluations, employee assistance and executive coaching for workplace performance and leadership.