This book by Shumway and Kimball provide some key elements for lasting recovery. I have highlighted some of their main premises. Take a few moments to consider addiction in your life, a family member, a friend or loved one and see what might apply. In their book, they state,
“First, we recognize the problems we have as adults that were caused by growing up in a dysfunctional family.
Second, we learn how to recover from the unresolved pain that was caused by growing up in a dysfunctional family.
Finally, we learn how to solve current problems in spite of the obstacles caused by how we were raised.”
The disease of addiction touches everyone in profound and personal ways. The individual, familial, and societal costs are staggering and are clearly understood by those who have been touched by this disease. The following three categories describe how addiction is represented in your life:
1. You are an alcoholic/addict–or think you might be.
2. You love an addict in your role as a family member, significant other, or close friend.
3. You are a professional in the addiction/recovery field.
No matter which category you identify with, you have been affected by addiction and the far-reaching pain and consequences that result.
In an effort to help yourself and others, these authors have identified six principles to aid in the ongoing appraisal of what they describe as a “recovery walk.” These principles include:
The reawakening after despair; to expect with greater confidence.
2. Healthy Coping Skills
The development of effective skills to manage the pain and stress of life.
3. Achievement and Accomplishment
The movement beyond the limitations of addiction toward personal achievement.
4. Capacity for Meaningful Relationships
The positive support and connection with family and peers.
5. Unique Identity Development
The emergence of a unique and positive identity.
6. Reclamation of Agency
The internal feeling that you have choices in your behavior—including the choice not to use.