In USA Today, Paul Wilkes has a column about how to be honest with yourself in the New Year. Here are some of his ideas.
Most of us are creatures of habit. One objective is to find and reinforce those habits that enrich our well-being and find and eventually put aside those that are not in alignment with who we really are. Examine your intentions and take responsibility for your own happiness. If you find yourself blaming others for your problems or unhappiness, it may be time to look in the mirror. Take control and responsibility for your happiness. Remember, happiness isn’t the goal, it is the result of a life with meaning, engagement, and pleasure. Joy is just around the corner.
Some possible questions to ask yourself:
- What did I do that made me happiest?
- Who makes me feel good about myself when I am with them?
- Where did I feel ashamed of myself?
- What action would I do over again and how?
- What do I look forward to?
- What are my personal and/or professional goals?
- What moves me to action?
- What habits or tendencies worked for or against me?
- When did I feel most in alignment with what is best in me?
- Do I need to make amends with anyone?
- What am I doing that creates meaning in my life?
Try this simple form of self-reflection tonight. See where this reflection leads you. Share your thoughts with a best friend or partner to make it real. It just may be time to take action on being and trusting yourself.